“I Luv Rap Music” and other thoughts

When I was young, DC Talk was my jam.  “Free At Last”, “Walls”, “Luv is a Verb”, “Heavenbound”, and more were on constant repeat to the point where, had CDs not come along, I would have worn out the cassette tapes by the time was I was 10.  There was just something about rap/hip hop that I loved; my mom likes to say that DC Talk and (early) Michael W Smith (Go West Young Man) helped me learn how to speak.

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A Love Story

So it’s been 10 days since I last posted!  Stephanie and I are moved into our new place (though still working on unpacking) and we finally have a working internet connection which was a hassle and a half but it’s all good!  I’m back now.

I decided to do something a little different for today’s post and share a song but also some thoughts on it.  The song I chose is “Buttons” by Lecrae and it has been on my mind recently because it seems like everywhere I turn there are more weddings being planned!  This summer will be crazy busy and I wish all the happy couples well.

Before I got married in 2009, I thought I had it all figured out; I had read countless books on the subject, listened to very smart public speakers give their thoughts on how to have a “happy marriage”, and talked to a few close friends who were married.  That delusion that I had it all figured out changed pretty much the day after the wedding.

Don’t get me wrong: I love my wife, I would do anything for her, and I don’t regret getting married at all.  But I knew zero-zilch-nadda-nothing about being married back then (and I’m learning more every day); the simple truth is that no book will fully prepare you for having a female roommate.  A big hurdle for me was that I was under the impression that to have a happy marriage, you couldn’t fight or argue; I have come to the conclusion that that is simply not true.  Steph and I disagree ALL THE TIME (the fact that we are both stubborn first-borns probably has something to do with that).  I don’t believe that disagreeing with each other means you have an unhappy marriage though: it means you’re human.

To reappropriate something my dad told me once concerning faith, you can’t rely on your feelings.  They go up and down and sideways constantly – being “in love” is a choice that you make every day regardless of how you’re feeling.  This is why I love this song: “For better or for worse, I’m going to make it work.  I’m not going anywhere.”

So to all my friends who are getting married this summer, I give you this encouragement: commit to stick by your spouse and be “in love” not because it is how you feel sometimes but because it is how you chose to act every day.  You’re going to push each other’s buttons and you’re going to get upset at times but that doesn’t mean your marriage will fail – how you respond afterwards determines that.  Love is a verb.

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For better or for worse
Make it work
I ain’t goin nowhere

Verse 1:
Yeah, I messed up, but you hurt me, blew it like it’s yo’ birthday
And you love me baby on Wednesday, but I make you sick on Thursday
And I know I’m wrong and you shutin’ down, and I touch down like “What now?”
Why we going through all this? Why things gotta be rough now?
But you had so many break-ups, you can’t believe
You go and break my heart that I forgive and I ain’t leave
Don’t define you by your faults, ain’t going to push your buttons either
Everyday we startin’ fresh, this is how it’s suposed to be
Never try to take advantage, you respect me as a man
But every once in awhile you get to poppin’ off and say stuff you shouldn’t be saying
But I’m with you, I ain’t playin’, if it’s thick or if it’s thin
Both the times and your figure, girl, this is who I am
I love you baby, that’s real talk, and this life we live is a real walk
I ain’t goin’ nowhere, tell your girlfriends that it’s still on
I love you baby, that’s real talk, this life we live is a real walk
I ain’t goin’ nowhere, tell your friends that it’s on

Hook:
For better or for worse
Sometimes I make you sick, and you get on my nerves
Make it work
I ain’t goin’ nowhere, and I give you my word
I will be right here
So though you push my buttons
I ain’t leavin’
You can keep on pushin’
I ain’t leavin’

Verse 2:
I be makin’ you mad, girl
But you said you’ll never leave me lonely
So I had to put a ring up on it, ‘cause our commitment ain’t no game
Yeah we laugh, but we ain’t playing, I’m a always be yo’ man
And I know sometimes I upset you, be pushing all of your buttons
We be fussing, fighting over nothing, you can try to leave, but I’m coming
We going work it out with no running, pushing, shoving
I know sometimes that I’m selfish, but I jump in front of yo’ bullet
Cause you everything that prayed for, plus a little bit extra
Even when you get you an attitude and you act a little bit extra
Listen, you make better, babe, you make better, babe
You got my heart and you can have it for forever, baby
And though we’ll never break up, I hate it when we mad
But love it when we get to make up, no lines that I could make up
To let you know how much I got you covered, girl
And I only be pushin’ yo’ buttons because I love you, girl

Hook:
For better or for worse
Sometimes I make you sick, and you get on my nerves
Make it work
I ain’t goin’ nowhere, and I give you my word
I will be right here
So though you push my buttons
I ain’t leavin’
You can keep on pushin’
I ain’t leavin’