The Importance of Being Earnestly Christlike

Those that know me have noticed that I’ve mellowed quite a bit over the last few years.  I haven’t lost my zeal or fervor but I have learned (and am continuing to learn) that there is a time and a place to offer a counterpoint to those who I disagree with; those places rarely include Facebook or Twitter.  Remembering what Paul said in 1 Corinthians 13:4 helps considerably in that effort – I often repeat it over and over to myself so that I don’t fly off the handle when facing a topic that is especially important to me.

Love is patient. Love is kind.

It breaks my heart to see so much hatred in this world – at times I almost want to remove myself from it all and be a hermit so that I wouldn’t have to encounter so much brokenness.  Pain and anguish is all around us and I am torn between wanting to give the victims a big, Iowan bear-hug or to go straight at the offenders to give them a piece of my mind.  I don’t like seeing injustice and my parents can attest to that worldview being part of me for my entire life. Continue reading


Fatherhood: The Prequel

I’ve started work on preliminary plans for a Crib and Changing Table for the the Nursery.  While I could just go out and buy them or put them on the registry, I’d rather build these items myself – I can then make sure they are exactly what we are looking for while making sure they are build out of quality materials.

This first example is from Babies R Us.  We like the size (Steph can comfortable reach over and into the crib) but materials and color leave us wanting.


This second example is what I have specific plans for.  While it is sturdy and we like the natural color, it is far too tall and couldn’t be used without a step stool.

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As I continue sketching out ideas, I’m sure the problems will be able to be resolved.  Before construction, I plan on buying the mattress so I can make sure it fits properly.  I’ll also be looking into how to convert it later to a toddler bed so it can be used down the road.


Yes, I stole the title of this post from the name of a band.
No, I’m not sorry.

After hemming and hawing about the decision for the past few months, I have finally decided to pull the metaphorical lever and drop Facebook out of my life.  I’ll keep it around for a little while in order to convert old logins to good ‘ol fashioned username+password but I won’t be posting or sharing things to my personal account.  I’m done with that.

Why?  When I returned home from vacation (which was a short period of being “unplugged”), I realized that a large portion of my attitude and worldview was being negatively affected by the posts I saw on Facebook.  This was the final push I needed to start the separation process. Continue reading

No Shame

I’ve always been overweight.  Always.

There has never been a time in my nearly 28 years on this planet when I haven’t been fluffier than my peers or felt paralyzing shame at the thought of having my shirt off.  With that history has come an ever shifting attitude; my mindset has ranged from “I’m worthless because I don’t have a 6 pack” to “this is the way I am and I don’t need to change.”  In fact, I’ve blogged about the later on this site before.  I’ve tried diets and supplements and even gym memberships but it always came back to food; I love food and I love everything that goes along with it!  The time with people, the process of crafting a meal, the various tastes and combinations thereof – there doesn’t seem to be anything about food that I dislike except for the fact that with it often comes judgement by others.  And plain, raw veggies.

The bottomline is that I’ve been a failure when it comes to food for most of my life.  I’ve used it for a cure to boredom, relief from constant teasing, and as a barrier to unfair expectations.  I’ve had ups and downs in the battle against this addiction but they mostly have tended to repeat over and over because I don’t learn from my errors.  That changed this year with my efforts to live a Low Carb, High Fat lifestyle (LCHF, also known as Keto).

Over the last 5 months I’ve successfully lost 56 pounds.  I’ve gone down 1.5 shirt sizes and 3 pant sizes by simply changing what and how much I was eating.  With 19 pounds left until I hit my extended goal, I’m happier and healthier than I have been in quite some time.  I still love food, even though I’ve been steadily losing weight, and I have been able to grow my love of cooking by discovering new and different recipes.  It truly has been an adventure and I don’t see it ending.

Why has this worked when so many other methods failed?  Here are 5 things I have realized in my 5 months of Keto:

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